“Liza Monroy is a great date – a
masterful storyteller, witty,
urbane, tender, and hilarious.”

— Dan White, author of Under The
and The Cactus Eaters

“Liza Monroy, an all-around expert on romantic love,

delivers these lively, touching essays about love in the depersonalized time of tech. Spanning countries and many dates – some more successful than others and all under the watchful eye of her mother, a profiler for the U.S. State Department – Monroy delivers an engaging chronicle for our times.”
–San Jose Mercury News

Q: What’s The Deal With Your Book With The Funny Title?

LM: On a recent holiday, I bought my toddler a book I spotted in the gift shop of the Chihuly glass exhibit in the Seattle Center. It’s called Beautiful Oops, and I want to share a quote from it that encompasses why I wrote this book (and pretty much my mission):

“Oops! When you think you have made a mistake, think of it as an opportunity to make something… beautiful!”

My goal was to find lasting, beautiful love, but my love life consisted of one OOPS! after another. But out of the (sometimes literal) wreckage, I learned a lot of lessons, culminating in these essays, many composed in the wake of my piece When Mom Is On The Scent And Right for the Modern Love column in the New York Times .

The stories chronicle these many misadventures in the search for love, bound together under the watchful eye of my eccentric, single mother, a profiler for the U.S. State Department, who is soon using her professional aptitude to weed out the “wrong” men in my life. But things take a strange turn in response to a piece of feedback I received about the article. A reader wrote in: “this mother has done an awful lot to tell her daughter about who’s wrong for her, but what has she really done to help her find one who’s right?” So my mother starts taking an active role in trying to find me “the one.”

What are the best ways look for and find love in our times? Do our parents really know best? And what happens when, rather than trying to evade a controlling mother, you hand her the reins to your (love) life instead?

I hope you’ll consider reading Seeing As Your Shoes Are Soon To Be On Fire. (The answer to the question of the funny title is within its pages. Hint: it’s literal.) Find me via the contact form to let me know what you think! I also answer advice questions, and my mother is available for “profiling” anyone you’re dating or thinking of giving the opportunity to enter your heart-space.

Big Love to all,

“…it is interesting to watch Monroy learn her lessons, to stop romanticizing her partners or assigning them to neat boxes, to assert boundaries and rules, even if they get broken. When she finally gets her happy ending, it feels earned.”
— Publishers Weekly

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