“Liza Monroy is a great date – a masterful storyteller, witty, urbane, tender, and hilarious.”

— Dan White, author of Under The
and The Cactus Eaters

“an all-around expert on romantic love,

Liza Monroy delivers these lively, touching essays about love in the depersonalized time of tech. Spanning countries and many dates – some more successful than others and all under the watchful eye of her mother, a profiler for the U.S. State Department – Monroy delivers an engaging chronicle for our times.”
–San Jose Mercury News

Q: What’s The Deal With Your Book With The Funny Title?

LM: I think the best way to introduce this book is through the lens of a very different one with a similar core message: on a recent holiday, I bought my toddler a board book I spotted in the gift shop of the Chihuly glass exhibit in the Seattle Center. It’s called Beautiful Oops, and there’s a quote from it that encompasses why I wrote Seeing As Your Shoes Are Soon To Be On Fire (and pretty much my whole life philosophy):

“Oops! When you think you have made a mistake, think of it as an opportunity to make something… beautiful!”

My goal was to find lasting, beautiful love, but my love life consisted of one OOPS! after another. But out of the (sometimes literal) wreckage, I learned a lot, culminating in these essays, many composed in the wake of my piece When Mom Is On The Scent And Right for the Modern Love column in the New York Times .

These pages chronicle many misadventures in the search for love, bound together under the watchful eye of my eccentric, single mother, a “profiler” for the U.S. State Department who can read someone’s true nature in five minutes or simply by looking at a Facebook page. She uses her professional aptitude to try to weed out the “wrong” men in my life. But things take a strange turn in response to a piece of feedback I received about the article. A reader wrote in: “this mother has done an awful lot to tell her daughter about who’s wrong for her, but what has she really done to help her find one who’s right?” So my mother starts taking an active role in trying to find me “the one.”

What are the best ways look for and find love in our times? Do our parents really know best? And what happens when, rather than trying to evade a controlling mother, you hand her the reins to your (love) life instead?

I hope you’ll consider reading Seeing As Your Shoes Are Soon To Be On Fire. (The answer to the question of the funny title is within its pages. Hint hint: it’s literal.) Find me via the contact form to let me know what you think! I also answer advice questions, and my mother is available for “profiling” anyone you’re dating or thinking of giving the opportunity to enter your heart-space. Listen to us talk about this in an interview for LA’s awesome NPR affiliate, KCRW.

BIG LOVE to all,

“…it is interesting to watch Monroy learn her lessons, to stop romanticizing her partners or assigning them to neat boxes, to assert boundaries and rules, even if they get broken. When she finally gets her happy ending, it feels earned.”
— Publishers Weekly

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